Self-empowerment

Lately, I’ve been thinking about ways to develop self-empowerment. If you don’t know me already, I’ve been taking the walk of life as an empowered, independent woman. Slowly but surely. There are still many things that I’m afraid of but who isn’t? I’ve accepted my fears as challenges that I want to overcome or find more comfort in. I believe this is how I can find meaning and happiness anywhere in life.

I understand that finding courage to voice one’s opinions, feeling confident to make decisions, and pushing yourself past your usual limit of comfort can all be daunting. That’s why I came to realization that acknowledgement of the matter at hand from various angles, including others’ input if necessary, will allow my mind to begin to tackle these obstacles. Then, patience, planning, and process of elimination usually moves me towards ideas that can expand my sense of empowerment.

All in all, developing self-empowerment is my personal goal, which I know will not be easy. The ultimate battle will be within myself. And I definitely have more to learn about myself.

“When the student is ready, the teacher will appear.”

In retrospect…

So so much has changed since the past year. For those of you who haven’t heard or seen me in a while…I completed my Masters in Marriage and Family Therapy back in August 2016. On a side note, I don’t really tell people that I’m a therapist because I don’t feel qualified yet (I’m still working towards my licensure); and I prefer to help people and families without the feeling of entitlement because I truly am passionate about helping those rekindle their relationships with each other. I want to continue becoming a strong advocate for people to create happier and healthier family bonds, relationships, and friendships. Anyways, I didn’t think graduate school would fly by as quickly as I got admitted back in March 2014. It has definitely been what seemed like a super painfully long and gratifying journey. My journey through grad school, as a MFT trainee, and living solo in San Diego has taught me many valuable life lessons. I encourage anyone who is feeling stuck in life (and has the financial means) to either pursue higher education, try living on your own in a city you’re not familiar with, or just putting yourself in any new and uncomfortable situations (even if briefly) because this has been one of my most satisfying yet challenging experiences of my life. I have definitely grown in so many ways that I thought I would never have. I feel and think more independently. According to one of my friends, I still look like I haven’t aged one bit, but I feel like I’ve gained and lost (this includes more than just weight lol) more than I have in the past year. 2016 was a year of many life crises, broken and gained friendships, heartbreak, and new beginnings. I recognize that this is all a part of life, maybe even the beginning of adulthood–people come and go and things happen out of your control. I think with all the life transitions I’ve experienced in these past two years whilst in grad school really has changed me. I’ve made countless mistakes in the past and I don’t regret it because that is how I came to grasp a better understanding of the world and became who I am today. The risk-taking me that applied to grad school on a whim is still here today and I’m extremely thankful because a risk not taken could have meant a path I didn’t give a chance. However, the thoughts in my mind and the way that I perceive people and the world is not what it used to be. My perspective on everything has changed greatly from the time I graduated, moved back home in Los Angeles, reconnected with some old and new friends, and went on my trip to Asia. With that being said, I want to continue to grow and forever be a student of life and strive to find my authentic self.

Will start this by:

  • eating healthier, getting fit and working out
  • getting employed
  • reading (never stop learning)
  • traveling/spending more time in nature
  • self-care

Authentically and sincerely,

-Deanna